Your words don’t describe your circumstances, your words DETERMINE your circumstances. If you want to change your life, you need to learn to change your language.
You need to be specifically mindful of the words you choose to use after “I am ____”
Most of us aren’t even conscious of how many times we use these statements every day and the consequences that come from them.
Some of my old statements used to be…
“I am a perfectionist”
“I am introverted”
“I am impatient”
“I am tired”
“I am busy”
While these all may sound like descriptors of my reality, these statements did not serve me!
Saying I was tired only made me more tired. Now if I feel tired, I say “I am in control of my energy level” and I get up and jump on my trampoline!
Instead of saying “I’m busy”, I say “I am doing work that is impactful and meaningful to me”, “I am doing work that supports my family financially”, “I am grateful for my children, my husband, my friends and my family” “I am grateful for a home to clean, for clothes to wash, for the food that nourishes my family and also creates dirty dishes”
Remember, what you choose to focus on is what you will feel. As soon as we attach language to something, it changes the meaning we experience, and this meaning will determine our emotions.
Constantly saying I am introverted, or a perfectionist or impatient, made me feel like these traits were inherent to me and I did not have the ability to change them. You can LEARN to alter your tendencies. Believing you have to be stuck in these patterns is not serving you so why would you continue to believe this? Change your narrative and you will change your life.
My final piece of advice is to make sure than any “I am” statements you make are ended with the most empowering words you can think of...
“I am resilient”
“I am courageous”
“I am inspiring”
“I am successful”
“I am strong”
"I am athletic"
“I am a freaking FIREWALKER”
Great advise, about the "I" statements! I need to incorporate that. Thank you!